This word seems to freak 'the other half' out. Why? We've known each other 16 years or more, we have a daughter together, we plan on having more children together......
I don't even talk about marriage - perhaps it's something I just expected to happen along the way.
So when family members or friends ask the question "when are you getting married?" and he replies "we're not", it hurts. It really hurts.
Am I good enough to have children with, but not good enough to marry?
I tell you one thing - I did not plan on having a different surname to my own child(ren). And, if I'd realised this beforehand, I can tell you that my daughter would have had my surname on her birth certificate.
Looks like am looking at a future where I'm gonna be known as 'the girlfriend' for the rest of my days. What joy! - (I should have listened to my mother).
why don't you just change your surname by deed poll?! it only costs £33. That's what one of my mates suggested to me when I found myself unmarried and with a different name to my boy (which really disturbed me!). We are married now, but I thought it quite a good threat!!
ReplyDeleteI think my other half would think this a better option than actually marrying me (wouldn't cost as much). Men, they are definitely from another planet aren't they? ;0)
ReplyDeleteThanks for visiting my new blog by the way - I hope you'll come back again.
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Hum that can’t be very nice… I mean it’s only a bit of paper at the end of the day and a ring on a finger, but if (hopefully they won’t! I’m just saying IF) things go wrong, then it’s easier if you’re married (for financial security for example, especially if there’s children involved). That’s not the only reason why you should get married of course lol, but perhaps you should sit him down and tell him how you’re feeling. Oh yeah, like you haven’t thought about that one! Sorry, didn’t mean to sound patronising! Hope you manage to sort things out!
ReplyDeleteLooking forward to seeing some of your knitting prowesses!!
If we hadn't had a child together, I wouldn't really be that bothered about getting married (I've already been married once before, when I was 23), but we have and I just want to feel like we're a proper family, with the same name.
ReplyDeleteAnyways - enough of my 'not get married' prolems.
Knitting project - was going well. Finished the cowl last night, and now comes the messy process of trying to sew the pieces together. I always seem to find positioning the sleeves into the armholes difficult. Hopefully, it'll all be finished by tonight and there'll be a photo of Violet wearing it tomorrow.